Hey Hottie!!!

Really? Um....is our relationship such that you feel you can call me that? Cuz really? I don't know you. And to be honest, I am not in relationship with you and as such there is no way on the face of this planet that you have my permission to call me that.

I am single. And as such, I am discovering a new element of supposed "man " out there. This is the type that approaches me with a "Hey, Sexy!" of "Hey Hottie!" as their way of greeting. My response? WTF do you think you are doing??? Where on earth did manners go? Where on earth did respect go? In fact, where on earth did common courtesy go?

Trust me my friends, calling me hottie or sexy by way of a greeting to me, is NOT appreciated. It is not respectful and I am not impressed. If that is your attempt at making me feeling wanted or sexy think again. If that is your way of showing me you are interested, thinking again. Because frankly speaking I will not give you the time of day.

I really am appalled at the familiarity with which guys approach me. Calling me hottie or sexy when you have no clue as to who I am slots me right in line with being a piece of meat that is purely here for you casual useage to be tossed out with the trash.  Think again, because the only place that will get you with me, is the back door. By the way, don't let it hit you on the way out.

Not quite as offensive but running along the same lines is the concept of calling me Kris. For those of you that are reading this, if you have done so, you are forgiven. However, my name is Kristie and that is how I wish to be addressed. Two people in this entire university get to call me Kris....and get this....it's not even my family. That is a rare privilege that only two people have. Trust me I will be swift to correct you should you call me that. As I did just recently. The response? The person in question chose to take offense because I politely told him that my name was Kristie and he could call me that.

I am not sure what type of men we as mothers are raising that they think they can get away with things like this and not only get away with it but think it is complimentary. But guess what? I demand more of myself and subsequently I demand more of those around me. So, if you are thinking of calling me sexy, hottie, Kris, or any other such disrespectful title, think again.....for you shall be swiftly shut down.

I am a person, I am due respect and dignity, I have a name. Use it.