Birthdays

So I remember birthdays when I was young and the biggest thing that I remember is that the only two times in the entire year that I felt "special," that I felt important or that I felt that I had something of value was during my birthday and during Christmas. Those were the ONLY TWO days out of 365 days that I felt celebrated. I think that that contributes to why I am so anal about both my birthday and Christmas. I hate it when it gets passed over and nothing happens (speaking of my birthday) and I hate it when there is not big celebrations that I can go to around Christmas. Those things deeply sadden me and I feel empty.

I think that that is why I ensure that my children's birthdays are so celebrated and are something that they can remember. At the beginning of the school year, we were at an event at the school and Missy was discussing with her friends her birthday party this year. And as she was doing this, her friends were running through all her birthdays.....her wine and cheese party, her princess party, her Clue mystery party...to name a few. This year, I had an esthetician come in and do a Mani / Pedi party. Unfortunately, we didn't get to the Pedi's so we have a Part II to Missy's birthday in February. The girls got to pick their colors and got rhinestones and/or decals on their toes. They played Twister and a few other games. They had appetizers and punch in champagne glasses and all in all I believe it was a successful party! One remark was "this was the best party I have ever been to!" I consider that a success.

Maybe it's not fair of me to put so much into a birthday party based on my own needs. It is one of the things that we are warned of as parents. Living out our dreams through our children whether it fits them or not. I am not sure whether something like this counts or not? What I do know is that my daughter had a fabulous birthday, she enjoyed it and her friends enjoyed it and for a child who struggle socially,  I think this is a good thing!!!!