So I have been living this violation in something akin to a detached manner. I have to function, and I have a list of things that I have to do in the next few days. One of those is to bring life back to normal as quickly as possible for the sake of the kids. And so I live this detached. When I feel like I have my space, I cry, I shake, I sob, I get angry, I shake, I sob and I cry. But those are my times, not when my children are around. For you see, obvious as this is, they feel violated. I'm used to that feeling so I know how to disengage from it and I do. I disengage so that I can live and cope and normalize life for my kids.
They aren't use to violation. They don't know how to quite handle it. And so it is left to me to show them how to continue living. Not an easy task. How do you deal with violation when you are 9? How do you understand it? How do you make it normal? The therapeutic answer is you don't. You can't. You don't have the skill set because you don't have the understanding.
And this is how they make sense of it....
"Mommy, I don't want to eat food anymore, because now that we got robbed, we are poor, and I don't want to waste money on food."
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