Inspiration/attitude

So many people lack inspiration. They lack a positive mental attitude. And I think that there are many reasons why this occurs. I think that there are many contributing factors to this lack of life spark that is turning epidemic in our land.

First, there is rampant destruction going on in our world from families, to cities to nations. It truly is depressing. If we focus on on the worlds current events, then its no wonder that we are a depressed nation, its no wonder that we lack inspiration and have a negative attitude.

Secondly, media perpetuates this. Rarely do we see positive good things reported. Rather just the negative that can at times be perpetuated and then of course the fear mongering that the media does. And to be honest, our government is guilty of that as well.

Thirdly, most of us have had a rough time growing up. We get locked into a poor me mentality. And I deserved better (which is true) so the world owes me now (not true). Growing up in a rough in  environment does causes negative self concepts and does cause negative thought patterns, but the owness rests on you to change those. Growing up in a rough environment does make things difficult...absolutely it does.....

I write today because I have noticed a proliferation of inspiring video clips on facebook lately. With the commentary behind them being such to the effect of "wow I really needed to see that today!" or "it was like that spoke right to me!"  So now that we have discovered the why we need to be inspired what do we do?

Well I can think of a few things, first and foremost, look to yourself. What have you overcome? What struggles in your life have you conquered? Do you give of your time? Do you help others? Do you volunteer? Do you go in and read to the littles ones at your child's school? You get the picture. This are all things to be inspired by. If your friend were doing them, wouldn't you think that was great? So why sell yourself short?

What about your circumstances growing up? Did your parents divorce? Were you teased growing up? Were you bullied? Were your parents physically there but maybe not emotionally? Again you get the idea...if you encountered these kinds of things growing up and it didnt kill you then be inspired by yourself!!! It takes someone strong to not let their lives be dictated by the past. So rejoice and be inspired but the strength that you have. You would celebrate it if it were a friend of yours, so celebrate, rejoice and be inspired bu you. Only you know the depth of the dark roads you have walked so be proud of the fact that you didnt let it beat you. Don't underestimate the inspiration that that brings to someone.

I can attest to this personally. People seem to admire me. I have been told this and to be honest? it takes a lot out of me to not brush it off. For to me, I am currently doing what I have to do to ensure the best I can possibly give to my children. My life coach and I had quite a talk about this last night. His words? He sees me as amazing.  Me?? Are you kidding??? He must be mistaken!!! For all told I am quite a simple girl with simple longings and desires that is doing whatever I can for the sake of my kids. I don't think that makes me amazing. I've been called strong, again from my perspective, I'm doing what I have to do and its not really strength that is doing this. People don't see me in my lonely nights crying myself to sleep, at night or scared and panicky for the overwhelming task of being the sole provider for my kids. I know to what depths i have gone, I know how dark my times have been and the things that I have done. Many....far too many things that I am not proud of. And I know the battles I still fight. These things, in my head, do not mean I'm strong. They mean I have a responsibility to my kids, they mean I am accountable to them and i have to do right by them so I do what must be done.

 Yet some see this as inspriring. So you see, a large part of what you do and where you have come from, what you have already overcome and what you are overcoming, may mean nothing to you, but may be inspiring to someone else so dont sell yourself short. Think on your accomplishments and realize that they truly are inspiring. And if you cannot yet do it for yourself then try and borrow someone else's perspective and know that there is someone out there who thinks you are truly inspiring. So borrow that until you start to believe it yourself.